How Do You Get Over A Breakup?

Everyone knows that all good things must come to an end, and since you’re still a teenager the reason for you to be separated from your boyfriend or girlfriend is not going to be natural death. In fact there are very high chances that the two of you will experience a messy breakup. Of course if you’re very lucky and your boyfriend and you decide to just stop being a couple and just transition to becoming friends instead, you won’t need to deal with the side effects and the emotional backlash that a breakup causes. This article is for those less lucky who experience a break up and are now heart broken.

So let me write this article from the viewpoint of a girl, since I don’t want to have to write “him or her” everywhere, but just keep in mind that the same applies to both teenage guys and teenage girls who have either been dumped or have decided to break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend.

After the break up you will experience a feeling of emptiness or of regret, you might start to wonder “what you could have done differently to make things work out”. You might also be blaming yourself a lot, or even blaming your ex-boyfriend a lot. But try not to let these emotions rule your life, because after all you are trying to recover from the break up and not stay in a state of unrest and unhappiness. So the first thing you’ll want to do after the break up is to switch gears.

Now some girls prefer to become more focused on taking care of themselves and learning what it is that you want in a relationship and in life. This is a very powerful and healing way to deal with a messy breakup. Just relax, take a soothing bubble bath, light some scented candles, read your favorite book, listen to some relaxing music, paint your toe nails, pamper yourself, get a new haircut or buy a new sexy outfit. But the point is to just be yourself and learn to love yourself for who you are all over again. You need to become more independent before you can let any other boys back into your life.

Other girls might prefer to jump right back into the dating game head first. The next guy you date might be what we call “a rebound boyfriend”. You need to be really careful with this type of relationships because it can cause more pain for yourself and for the new boy in question. You might be tempted to date a new guy to make your ex-boyfriend jealous but if you aren’t careful you will just end up hurting your new boyfriend and ultimately not doing yourself any good.

Another tip to help you deal with a messy break up is to avoid thinking or talking badly about your ex-boyfriend. This type of attitude will only make you feel worse and will make your friends and any new boyfriends really resent your negative emotions. They might wonder why you’re still stuck on that old topic and they might just move on into the future with someone else, who is happier with herself. To find out other ways to take care of yourself and to move on from a bad break up, check out the teen relationship advice column.