How to find stress relief in family routines

When it comes to stress relief regular routines can make the world of difference. If we do not have regular routines in place, life just does not flow as it should. Instead we get stressed by the lack of order and productivity that would otherwise be provided by a regular schedule.

Following is a list of stress management and scheduling tips for getting through your weekdays.

When you have a solid weekday routine in place you’ll find you and your family will be able to enjoy more time together.

You should also experience less stress and reduced panic because instead hunting the house for your keys or the kids for their homework everyone will know where what they’re looking for is.

Establish daily routines and stick to regular meal and bedtimes. Once you have a weekday schedule in place adhere to it as closely as possible. This assists children in falling into a pattern that will find them well-rested and ready for school the next day.

Organize a family meeting to discuss expectations. Clearly outline steps for getting ready for school, doing chores, completing homework and just what is expected of them when bedtime rolls around.

When delegating chores make sure they are reasonable, limited in number, and age appropriate.

Post all chores in a highly visible place, so everyone knows what is expected. (You may want to remind older children it is your responsibility as a parent, not their responsibility as an older sibling to remind young ones what their jobs are.)

If need be, place self-stick notes on mirrors and doors as reminders.

Keep a master calendar. This is a biggie in our house. Our wall-sized calendar lists all our commitments, schedules for extra-curricular activities as well as days off from school and major events (birthdays, family outings) at home and at school (school barbecue, picture day).

Before heading off to bed, make sure your kids are ready for the next day including everything required in their backpack and clothes (complete with shoes, socks and accessories) laid out.

Support your children as they develop organizational skills by taking the time to photocopy checklists and schedules and tape them to the refrigerator. Provide gentle reminders about filling in calendar dates and keeping any papers/materials organized. Most important, set a good example.

Praise all organizational efforts with not only an I’m proud of you but with a warm hug. Kids never grow too old for hugs.