The fact that your marriage is falling apart and you're headed for divorce court may not be information that you want to divulge to the public. Historically, in religious circles, marriage was always considered a sacred institution that should not be dissolved. Some churches even went so far as to expel a divorced individual from their congregation...
Although people used to be able to keep their marriages together, even if they were unhappy in doing so, modern folks aren't so willing to compromise their own needs just to keep their relationships intact. This fact can be seen in the divorce rates that have steadily risen to the 50% mark. What many people either don't know or scoff at is the advantages of using a marriage expert to act as an intermediary to save their marriages...
Many married couples who are struggling in their relationships consider seeking professional advice from a marriage counselor, but still they hesitate. From stories they've heard, they wonder if counseling really works. Besides, they hate to spend money on this type of resource unless they have assurance that they will reap rewards for their investment...
If you're finding your marriage to not be quite as satisfying as it once was, and if you've even been tempted to cheat on your spouse or seek a divorce, you well may be looking for magic answers that can repair your marriage as well as your spirits. You already know there are professional counselors out there who claim they can help you, but you know other couples who have tried counseling and found out it just didn't work for them...
One time in a land far away a client asked me if I could help her save her 15-year marriage. Her husband was threatening to leave her, was stonewalling and was generally emotionally cold, but she said he was willing to see me. I worked with him for several months, and they stayed together. However, one day a year later as I was preparing to leave the community, she approached me, very troubled...
What do you do if you've already spent thousands of dollars on marriage counseling which hasn't seemed to help at all? How often do you need to examine your feelings to find out you're depressed about your failing relationship and then hear that there's no hope? If you're one of these thousands of people who have either attended marriage counseling sessions per court order or just because you were hoping for help, you're probably feeling frustrated...
It's possible you've heard friends or relatives discussing the frustrating, non-productive, but expensive sessions they had with a marriage counselor. The negative PR is enough to make you think twice before trusting your marriage to one of these people. There is another alternative to marriage counseling, though, and that's a marriage coach...
You never thought it would happen to you. But now here you are today... faced with the most important decision of your life. No matter what circumstances led to the current condition of your marriage, all that doesn't matter anymore. All that matters now is that you need to find a solution to your marriage problems...
