When I was a kid growing up in the 1950s, I lived in a family configuration that was unusual for the time. My mother worked outside the home in an era when all of my friends' mothers were staying home, caring for the children, doing household tasks, and baking cookies. I always felt a little resentful that I was the one who never had anyone in attendance at school programs, that my mother didn't belong to the PTA, and that I was different than my friends, but I just didn't realize that our family was on the cutting edge of where society was going...
Remember the days when you and your spouse could hardly wait to fall into bed together to engage in mind-blowing sex? Is it still like that for the two of you, or has some of the magic disappeared leaving you in a sexless relationship? Sexless can be defined as having sex anything less than ten times per year...
Have you ever looked at your spouse and wished that you never had to see him or her again? All married people feel like that sometimes, but all too many of them act on the feelings without examining the root cause. When the bells and whistles of newlywed bliss settle down into the grind of everyday living, all of a sudden you're able to see your spouse, warts and all...
Even though divorce rates are higher than they've ever been, not everyone who heads for divorce court really wants to dissolve their union. In fact, if there were alternatives, a large number of the couples who actually go through with it would probably have chosen a different option. A temporary separation is often enough to show the partners just how difficult and painful it is to live apart, and many long to return to the relative security of their relationships even if there are issues...
One time in a land far away a client asked me if I could help her save her 15-year marriage. Her husband was threatening to leave her, was stonewalling and was generally emotionally cold, but she said he was willing to see me. I worked with him for several months, and they stayed together. However, one day a year later as I was preparing to leave the community, she approached me, very troubled...
Life is full of events that lead to personal distress. And stress can build upon stress which can lead to marriage problems. If one of you drinks to reduce stress, in time the drinking itself causes stress and becomes a major roadblock to solutions. Quite naturally, you look around to see what’s causing your distress and the only person there is, your spouse, so you instinctively blame him or her for upsetting you...
Every marriage, no matter how idyllically it starts, is going to face some problems throughout the years. While a lot of people hit these rough patches and throw in the towel, filing a divorce, there are much better ways to fix the marriage problems without resorting to such a drastic measure. A lot of the trouble lies in the fact that women are more independent these days and not willing to be dominated, men often want their wives to carry a double or triple burden without help, and along with that, women aren't doing the housewifely duties as conscientiously as they did in the past...
Often there is no real reason for a couple to divorce. However, it is inevitable that a few relationships are going to end in a bad marriage. This can happen for a variety of reasons. Possibly one spouse starts drinking to excess and physically abusing their mate, one spouse continues to have affair after affair without remorse, or one partner wants to totally dominate the other...
You never thought it would happen to you. But now here you are today... faced with the most important decision of your life. No matter what circumstances led to the current condition of your marriage, all that doesn't matter anymore. All that matters now is that you need to find a solution to your marriage problems...
Let me ask you...do you know how many hours a day you SHOULD be spending on your marriage? A happy, healthy marriage requires that time is spent WITH each other, ON each other and FOR each other. Unfortunately, most couples forget this and focus on other things they consider (at the time) to be a priority...
